Sea Story #1: A home

This blog weaves together real-life sea stories to illuminate the unique psychological and emotional experiences of mariners. Each story, gathered from those who have spent years at sea, offers a vivid glimpse into the challenges and resilience required for life on the ocean. These accounts reveal not only the intense isolation and personal reckonings that mariners endure but also the deep, often unspoken, truths about their inner worlds. By incorporating these authentic narratives, the blog brings the realities of maritime life to the forefront, grounding theoretical concepts in personal experiences and giving readers a visceral sense of what it means to be alone with the vastness of the sea, navigating both the waters and one’s own mind. Through these stories, readers can feel the realness, understanding not just the hardships but the coping strategies mariners employ, and witnessing firsthand how they confront—and often transcend—the psychological challenges they face.

To protect client confidentiality, names and identifying details in these stories have been changed. Each example reflects real challenges mariners face, but personal information has been modified to ensure privacy and respect for those involved.

Lets pause for a sea story:

"Sarah, a mariner with over 20 years at sea, had built her life around the endless rhythm of ocean travel, rarely staying in one place for long. When she finally decided to purchase a home on land, she looked forward to the stability and comfort it could bring. Yet, the moment she moved in, Sarah felt overwhelmed and unsettled in ways she hadn’t expected. The stillness of her new home contrasted sharply with the constant motion of life at sea, and she found herself feeling vulnerable, anxious, and strangely lost.

She struggled with a profound discomfort in her own space—avoiding even minor decisions, like arranging furniture or unpacking fully. The silence, too, felt uncomfortably loud. Used to the background hum of engines and the camaraderie of crew life, she was unprepared for the intensity of being alone with her thoughts. Afraid of feeling stuck, Sarah began to worry that she couldn’t truly belong anywhere.

Reaching out to a therapist, Sarah shared her experience of “land sickness” and the deep unease she felt with staying put. Through their sessions, she began to realize that her anxiety was more than just a reaction to the stillness; it was a response to feeling unrooted in her own self. The therapist helped Sarah identify her deep reliance on movement to keep difficult emotions at bay, using the constant motion of sea life as a way to escape uncomfortable feelings. Now, on land, she had no choice but to face them.

In therapy, Sarah worked on self-soothing and self-talk techniques that helped her feel safe and calm in moments of stillness. She learned to talk herself through her anxieties with compassion, often saying things like, “I am safe here, and I can handle what I’m feeling.” This self-talk became a way of holding space for her own emotions rather than running from them, giving her a newfound sense of inner safety.

By cultivating these skills, Sarah began to build a stronger, more supportive relationship with herself. Instead of seeking security from the constant motion of the ocean, she discovered a steadying presence within. Her therapist encouraged her to use moments of quiet as an opportunity to reconnect with herself, creating a gentle internal dialogue that reminded her she didn’t need to escape her feelings to feel safe.

As Sarah developed this relationship with herself, she also noticed a shift in her experience of the world around her. With each self-soothing practice, she found a growing sense of trust in her own resilience. Her home became less a place of confinement and more a space of rest, where she could integrate both her maritime life and her shore life. Although the adjustment was challenging, she began to see stability as a source of strength rather than a restriction, finding a way to hold both the stillness and movement she needed in her life.

Through therapy, Sarah learned that her home on land wasn’t just a physical place—it was a representation of a safe space she could carry within herself. The practice of self-soothing and supportive self-talk transformed her perspective, creating a foundation she could lean on, whether on land or at sea.”

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Chapter 2: Life at Sea: The Psychological Impact of Isolation and Separation